Love: Need it or Drop it?



Harmony Aguirre, managing editor/student-journalist

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Romantic relationships in high school can prepare students for future real-life problems and scenarios but they also have to keep in mind the possibility of heartache and emotional scarring.

Some parents are against high school relationships possibly believing that teenagers are immature and will not know how to manage their social and school life. Something that might also be believed is that being in a relationship could help their children grow as people.

Mother of high school students Marryen Espinosa said, “I believe that sometimes high school relationships are something that teenagers should experience because it is an experience after all and they need that kind of experience to grow as a person and grow emotionally.”

The online newspaper The Huffington Post reports that relationships are delicate when it comes to any age group, but the high school years are often overlooked, deemed to be not particularly important.

“In my opinion relationships at our age are not worth it because we are barely getting ready to start our lives and go into the world. We should not be tied down to one person because eventually, we will all want different things, we should all just focus on developing ourselves and getting ready to go out into the world,” said a CHS student who requested anonymity.

The Huffington Post also reported that the minds of adolescents are not fully developed and therefore are not capable of knowing what is or is not beneficial in terms of romanticism at the time.

“High school relationships are evaluated negatively because some think it is all child’s play, however, in my opinion, it all depends on the people involved in the relationship if the aftermath is positive or negative,” said senior Christina Phetsany.

It could also be believed that romantic relationships at such a young age can add to the pressure of being in high school and making the decisions that will quite literally define the rest of students lives.

“High school relationships are normal and I allow my children to date if they want they just need to keep their obligations and goals in check other than that it is fine by me,” said Mrs. Espinosa.

Going through a relationship could help develop a young individual’s mind while helping them discover what it is they will desire in future relationships. Every person someone dates during their life might teach them what they want and what they do not, and it could be no different for high school students.

It could be better to discover what it is expected of future partners early on in life through experience and looking back to the mistakes made, rather than the possibility of marrying someone not suited and then realize shortly after that the decision was impulsive.

University of Denver psychology professor Dr. Wyndol Furman says adolescents’ lack of social skills and emotional control can make relationships difficult. Yet, they can also be significant sources of support that offer teenagers fun and companionship, help them forge mature identities and offer them practice in managing emotions.

“Relationships in high school or when you are in high school students start to have relationships especially towards the later years of high school I think like anything else it depends on the person maturity, there are some relationships I can point to that I’ve seen that they’ve been in a steady relationship, very mature relationship where there’s no apparent drama or distractions from classwork and then there’s the opposite so I think it just depends on the person,” said biomedical teacher Ms. Pena.

With so many optimistic and pessimistic beliefs and thoughts regarding relationships, who can say whether or not they are positive or negative for the youth, and one may not really have a meaningful opinion if they have not experienced it for themselves.